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Nelson Abanto
Awkward thoughts at a painful time:
The news of Mark's passing really blindsided me. It stirred many thoughts some of which I have posted in the In memoriam section and one of which I would like to share here.
One of the most upsetting things about Mark's death is, how I could let such an important friendship drift away and become a "once every 10 years at the reunion" friendship. There are all the usual reasons (life, family, job) but in our youth there was also the Viet Nam War. War, for all its horrors, is the great "reshuffler" of life. It takes people out of one life and sets them on a completely different course and in a completely different place.
Such was the case with me.
Over this period of time I pretty much lost contact with every one in our community including all those who had been so important to me. I would see people at reunions but that was about it.
Well now we have this website and, for me, it has restored a sense of community. We have a constant daily chatter. I confess I am not a big contributor other than, with Phil, to bore people to death with opera stories. We also have a renewed sense of what is going on in each others lives, i.e who is sick, whose grandkid is doing what etc. That really brings the community to life.
And we can come together and mourn over the passing of someone so important as Mark.
When we decided not to have a 50th I was against the idea because I knew it meant that some of us would not be there. I am, however, extremely grateful for this website and the sense of belonging to this community that it has restored in me.
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